Mastering the Art of Men's Accessories

18 Must-Have Accessories

Do you ever find yourself pondering over accessories? You're not alone. Men's accessories can be both intriguing and perplexing, often making us question how much is too much. Striking the right balance between style and subtlety is the real challenge in this world of sartorial enhancements.

In this journey, I've compiled a comprehensive list of 18 essential accessories that every modern man should consider. From the classic tie to the discreet card carrier, these items are the secret ingredients that can elevate a good outfit to an exceptional one.

Accessories are the finishing touches that inject life into your outfit. They allow you to express your personality, showcase creativity, and reveal your impeccable taste. While some of these accessories are personal favorites of mine, remember, fashion is your canvas, and you're the artist. Feel free to swap in items that resonate more with your unique style.

As we explore these accessories from head to toe, get ready to discover their potential to enhance your attire. But before we dive into our list of 18 accessories, let's set the stage for this stylish journey.

One Accessory To Avoid

Now, before we dive headfirst into our exploration of those 18 essential accessories, there's one item in particular that warrants our attention - the tie bar. This tiny accessory, once a prevailing trend, has long been a subject of debate regarding its actual significance. Its rise to fashion prominence can be traced back to the Mad Men television series, although it never quite won me over.

I distinctly recall stumbling upon an article in GQ Magazine that featured a one-inch tie bar from Tom Brown, priced at a jaw-dropping $175. At the time, I was fond of slim ties, and so, I made the somewhat extravagant decision to acquire this petite accessory. Looking back, it ranks as one of my less prudent purchases.

The tie bar primarily serves to keep your tie neatly in place, a feat easily achieved by a simple tie adjustment. However, many gentlemen adopted it not out of necessity but as a visible fashion statement, a choice that often left me perplexed. As we embark on our journey through the world of men's accessories, it's essential to remember that not every trend or item is a must-have. The tie bar, once a darling of the fashion world, serves as a valuable lesson, drawn from personal experience.

A Tie

Now, let's delve into the exciting world of accessories, and we're kicking off with the undisputed king - the tie. While our list isn't necessarily in order of importance, it's no coincidence that the tie claims the top spot. Ties hold a unique place in men's fashion. When well-dressed men gather, we certainly appreciate fine shoes, but it's the tie that often steals the show. Your tie is a canvas for your individuality and style, and it rarely happens that two gentlemen at an event sport the exact same one. This is why I emphasize the significance of ties. They sit prominently below your face, impossible to overlook.

Now, when it comes to selecting ties, it's a versatile realm with options galore, and the choice depends on various factors like the season and occasion. However, one tie that consistently proves its worth is the black grenadine tie. Crafted from a unique silk produced solely in Italy, grenadine ties offer a touch of elegance. But remember, this is just one option among many. Navy grenadine ties, for instance, also enjoy popularity. On a personal note, I've introduced my own tie, the Chace & Ryder Intro tie, which also features grenadine silk. It combines dark and light blue, offering a stylish twist.

Speaking of ties, my personal favorites are the foulard ties. They exude a distinctive charm, and you can find some images in the blog post that accompanies this episode on I'm not a gentleman.com, giving you a visual taste of these remarkable accessories. So, embrace the tie as your ultimate style statement, an expression of your unique flair in the world of menswear.

A Pocket Square

Let's now dive into the world of pocket squares, a charming accessory meant to occupy the pocket of your jacket. The pocket square serves both function and fashion, ensuring your jacket pocket is never left empty. These squares, like ties, offer a myriad of colors and patterns, making them a versatile addition to your ensemble.

The most common choice is the white pocket square. While it may not always be the absolute best choice, it's undoubtedly the most versatile. White pocket squares effortlessly complement any suit or tie color. However, it's essential to understand that there's an art to pairing your tie with a pocket square. Contrary to a common misconception, you should never attempt to match them. These items aren't meant to be identical. They should harmonize but not mirror each other. Matching sets sold in some stores might seem convenient, but in the realm of menswear, such an approach is elementary.

So why is white often the go-to choice? Firstly, it's highly adaptable, eliminating any worry about clashing colors. Secondly, it prevents your pocket square from vanishing into the jacket when they share the same hue. You certainly don't want a white pocket square if your jacket is white, though. While I personally favor multi-colored pocket squares with unique patterns, especially featuring characters, a white pocket square remains an excellent starting point for beginners in the world of men's accessories.

Socks

Now, let's explore accessory number three - socks, but not just any socks, over-the-calf socks. Here's a style tip that often goes overlooked: no one wants to catch a glimpse of your leg hair when you cross your legs, so it's essential to opt for over-the-calf socks to maintain a polished look. This simple choice can make a significant difference in how you present yourself.

When it comes to sock selection, it's wise to exercise some restraint. Flashy socks adorned with numerous stripes and a riot of colors can sometimes be too distracting. While I personally enjoy sporting colorful socks, with burgundy ranking as a personal favorite, it's crucial to avoid overdoing it by combining an array of vibrant shades simultaneously. Such a choice can draw excessive attention to your lower half, diverting it away from your upper body and, most importantly, your face.

Now, there's an interesting anecdote about an Instagram acquaintance who took exception to my stance on colorful socks. He's known for his daily sock displays, featuring an array of vivid hues. While he indeed pairs them with some fantastic footwear, I stand by my opinion that, in general, individuals who don flashy socks often neglect their choice of shoes. However, as the saying goes, "If the shoe fits, wear it." Everyone's style journey is unique, so if colorful socks suit you, then by all means, rock them. Just remember to maintain balance and avoid excessive patterns like polka dots for a more sophisticated look.

A Watch 

Now, onto number four - the watch. This accessory tends to stir a bit of controversy in the style world. You see, I'm a firm believer in matching your watch to your attire, especially when it comes to tailoring. My go-to recommendation for a suited look is a dress watch. The rationale behind this is all about proportion. A dress watch typically has a sleeker profile, allowing your shirt cuff to smoothly glide over it. In contrast, tool watches, like divers, often boast a chunkier build, which can disrupt the seamless fit of your dress shirt.

Moreover, dress watches tend to be more understated in size, complementing the refined elegance of tailored clothing. Of course, if you're a watch enthusiast and feel particularly attached to your diver or another substantial timepiece, you're absolutely free to wear it with your tailoring. However, it pains me to witness beginners who insist on making their watches the focal point of their outfit. Remember, your watch will naturally catch attention during conversations and gestures; there's no need to go overboard.

But here's where I draw the line - the Apple watch. While it might be tempting for its various functionalities, I'd strongly advise against pairing it with your tailored ensemble. It simply doesn't harmonize with the sophistication of tailored clothing. Trust your iPhone to monitor your steps when you're dressed to impress in suiting.

A Signature Scent

Accessory number five may be invisible, but it's undoubtedly essential - your fragrance. It's no secret that every man should not only look good but also smell good. A well-chosen cologne can elevate your presence, leaving a lasting impression. However, there's an art to it. The key is to strike a delicate balance. You don't want your cologne to announce your arrival before you even enter a room. Yet, when you're in close quarters, a subtle, pleasing scent can be quite inviting.

Choosing the right cologne is crucial. Just as you wouldn't pair a thousand-dollar suit with fifty-dollar shoes, your fragrance should also match the quality of your attire. While I'm not suggesting you break the bank on cologne, investing in a bottle within the range of 150 to 200 dollars is a smart choice if you're sporting a fine suit and stylish footwear. Your cologne, like your attire, is a reflection of your attention to detail and refinement.

So, remember, gentlemen, while your fragrance might be invisible, its impact is undeniable. Ensure it harmonizes with your overall style, and you'll be turning heads not only with your looks but also with your signature scent.

A Briefcase

Accessory number six on our list is the quintessential briefcase. When it comes to pairing your tailored outfits with the right bag, there's no room for debate - backpacks, or book bags have no place in this equation. Not only do they project a somewhat juvenile image, but they can also potentially harm the shoulders of your finely crafted jackets. Instead, opt for a briefcase, a symbol of sophistication and professionalism.

I understand that some might argue that briefcases don't provide enough room for their daily essentials. However, I'd like to dispel that myth. There are plenty of bag options out there that offer more space than a traditional briefcase without resorting to the backpack style. Personally, I use a slim vintage briefcase from the 70s by Frank Clegg. While it may not accommodate a multitude of items, it perfectly holds essentials like an iPad, notebook, and more. So, believe me, there are alternatives that maintain your tailored look without sacrificing practicality.

In the realm of men's accessories, the briefcase is an absolute must. It not only enhances your overall appearance but also demonstrates your commitment to a refined style that leaves no room for backpacks.

A Weekender

Now, let's talk about accessory number seven - the weekender or duffel bag. When it comes to travel, your choice of luggage speaks volumes about your style and attention to detail. Opting for a weekender bag instead of something like a generic Nike sports bag can instantly elevate your travel game. Unless, of course, you're headed to the basketball court, in which case, a sports bag is perfectly justified. However, for other types of travel, a stylish leather weekender is a must.

I personally own a weekender from Sartolane, complete with my initials both inside and out. This personal touch not only adds a unique flair but can also be practical, especially if you ever need to check your bag at the airport. However, the size of a weekender makes it ideal for carrying on board. Even for shorter road trips - like when I accompany my kids to basketball tournaments - my weekender is a go-to choice. It's both practical and stylish, and it always garners compliments, even from fellow dads.

So, whether you're jet-setting across the globe or hitting the road for a weekend getaway, a well-chosen Weekender or duffel bag is your ticket to traveling in style and making a lasting impression.

A Card Carrier

Let's delve into accessory number eight - the card carrier. In this age of digital transactions, bulky wallets seem a bit outdated. That's why I prefer a sleek card carrier. It's designed to comfortably hold around four to five credit cards, which is all I need in today's cashless society. My personal choice is from Ashland, a reputable company based in Chicago. 

My card carrier, in a classy Cordovan shade, has been my daily companion for a few years now. It's developed a beautiful patina over time, adding character to its already stylish appearance. If Cordovan isn't your preference, Ashland offers these carriers in regular leather as well. The key here is practicality and quality. You use this accessory every day, storing your ID and essential credit cards, so it should not only look good but also be durable.

I remember my early days with a Banana Republic card carrier. While it served its purpose for a couple of years, it eventually began to show wear and tear, especially in the corners. In contrast, my Ashland card carrier has only improved with age, making it a worthy investment that I wholeheartedly recommend as accessory number eight.

An Umbrella

Let's talk about accessory number nine, and it's one of my personal favorites - the wooden stick umbrella. Rain might not be our preferred weather, but when it does come pouring down, having a quality umbrella is essential, especially when you're dressed in sharp tailoring.

These umbrellas come in various canopy colors, and while there are many options, I tend to favor the classics. Black is a timeless choice, highly versatile, and widely appreciated. Personally, I own a navy one, which complements my outfits elegantly. For a touch of uniqueness, green can also be a splendid choice. But beyond the color, the real star of these umbrellas is the wooden stick.

Mine happens to be from Kent Wang, a brand known for crafting exceptional wooden stick umbrellas. When you're wearing a well-fitted suit, you don't want to undermine your style with a cheap, flimsy umbrella. These wooden stick umbrellas exude sophistication and reliability. They do come with a slightly higher price tag, but the investment is absolutely worth it. I received mine as a gift from my wife, and I must admit, I was eagerly awaiting the first thunderstorm to take it for a spin. So, a wooden stick umbrella - a must-have companion for those impeccably tailored moments.

A Pen

Let's talk about accessory number ten - the pen, and not just any pen, but a refined fountain pen or a high-quality ballpoint pen that you carry in your breast pocket. In the world of menswear, there's a spot in your jacket specifically reserved for a pen, and having a stylish one can elevate your overall look.

Picture this: you're wearing a meticulously tailored suit, possibly costing a pretty penny. Now, imagine pulling out a cheap, disposable pen you picked up at the last store. It's like wearing a luxury watch with a rubber band. It just doesn't quite match. 

Now, I'm not suggesting you need to splurge hundreds of dollars on a pen unless that's within your means. But investing in a nice pen, one that feels substantial in your hand and writes smoothly, is a small touch that speaks volumes about your attention to detail and sophistication. So, make sure you've got yourself a pen that's a worthy companion to your refined attire.

A Scarf

Let's talk about accessory number eleven - the scarf. But not just any scarf, we're talking about a stylish scarf that's truly a game-changer. See, the thing about scarves is, they're not all created equal. I like my scarves with character, just like my pocket squares. Plain or striped scarves? Nah, they don't cut it for me. I want my scarf to stand out effortlessly, and that's where the magic lies.

You see, I've always preached about balance in an outfit, how no one element should steal the show. But I'll admit, my scarves often steal the spotlight, especially during the fall and winter. It's almost a guarantee that when I step out in those seasons, I'm going to get compliments, and not just about my coat, but mainly about those eye-catching scarves. They not only keep my neck warm but also add an undeniable flair to my style.

So, a nice scarf is like a cheat code to elevate your look. It serves a practical purpose by keeping you cozy in the chilly months while effortlessly making a style statement. It's that perfect accessory that combines both function and fashion and trust me, you can't beat a stylish scarf in your fall and winter wardrobe.

A Beanie

Accessory number twelve, let's dive into beanies. Now, if you've seen the show cover illustration, you might have noticed me sporting a burgundy beanie. It's an accessory that stirs up a bit of controversy among my fashion choices, albeit the majority of feedback I receive is overwhelmingly positive. The few criticisms I do get often revolve around my penchant for beanies, and I get it, there might be more conventional options that seem to pair better with tailored clothing.

But here's the deal - wearing a suit doesn't have to be stuffy. You can exude style while staying true to your identity. I have confidence in my fashion choices, and if someone doesn't resonate with them, that's their prerogative. When I'm on the subway or out and about, I want young people who may look like me to see that wearing a suit doesn't mean you can't relate to them. It's about breaking stereotypes and showing that a suit can be cool, relatable, and far from intimidating.

In essence, the accessories I mention are often a reflection of my personal taste. However, fashion is personal, and you should feel free to swap them out for items that align with your style. If fedoras are your thing, go for it. As for me, when it comes to headgear, I'm sticking with my beanies. They're a part of my signature look, and I don't see that changing anytime soon.

A Lapel Pin

Let's dive into accessory number thirteen: the lapel pin. Personally, I find myself wearing these charming adornments about half the time. It's not that I don't appreciate them; in fact, I love the subtle touch they add to an outfit. The truth is, I only own five of these lapel pins, and sometimes, I just forget to wear them. It's a bit like musical chairs, moving them from one jacket to another. 

But that's about to change. I've realized the appeal of lapel pins is undeniable, and I've decided to expand my collection. The goal is simple: have one for each of my suit jackets and sportcoats so I never have to worry about forgetting them again. Lapel pins, especially small and tasteful ones like the ones I wear, offer a subtle yet effective means to distinguish your style. They often catch the eye of observant individuals who aren't shy about mentioning their appreciation. Most of mine come from a company called Dapper Woodworks, and I have to give a big shout-out to Justin, who does an excellent job crafting these pieces.

So, whether you're a lapel pin aficionado or just considering dipping your toe into this accessory, it's a fantastic way to elevate your attire with understated elegance.

Suspenders

Let's delve into accessory number 14: suspenders. Now, there's a bit of debate as to whether suspenders are technically an accessory, but given that belts fall under that category, I'll include suspenders in the same realm. However, there's one key distinction: suspenders aren't meant to be seen. Their sole purpose is to keep your pants where they belong, no flashy displays here. In fact, the beauty of suspenders lies in their subtlety.

Unlike belts, which circle your waist and demand occasional adjustments, suspenders hang from your shoulders, offering a more reliable and comfortable way to ensure your trousers stay put. Once you set them in the morning, you can practically forget about them, allowing you to glide through the day with ease. The crucial point to remember about suspenders, however, is that they're not meant to be showcased. This isn't an accessory to flaunt; it's a practical tool to maintain a polished appearance.

Of course, there are exceptions to every rule. I once had a commenter argue that suspenders and belts can coexist, especially for those who carry a holster attached to their belt. However, for the vast majority, wearing both is unnecessary and far from fashionable. So, while suspenders might not steal the spotlight in your outfit, they do play an essential behind-the-scenes role in keeping your look refined and comfortable. Hence, they earn their place as accessory number 14 on our list.

Gloves

As we approach the final stretch of our accessory lineup, let's talk about number fifteen: gloves, specifically leather gloves. Living in New York, I've learned to appreciate the icy chill of winter as an opportunity to break out these stylish essentials. Cold weather fashion, particularly the fall and winter season, holds a special place in my sartorial heart. It's a season defined by beanies, scarves, and of course, gloves, which collectively infuse a sense of warmth and style into everyday wear.

Interestingly, my deep appreciation for these colder months is somewhat unexpected, considering my origins in Haiti, a Caribbean country where temperatures regularly hover around a balmy 80 degrees. Most folks from there aren't exactly winter enthusiasts, but I've developed a genuine love for the crisp autumn air and the impending winter. Fall, in particular, is a magnificent season, marked by the captivating transformation of leaves and the arrival of football season. It's a time of unmatched charm, and I'm thrilled for what lies ahead. As this episode debuts in September, autumn is officially upon us, bringing with it the perfect excuse to slip on a pair of leather gloves and embrace the whole experience.

Sunglasses

Let's chat about accessory number 16: sunglasses. The beauty of sunglasses lies in their diversity. There's an abundance of styles out there, providing a perfect avenue for gents to showcase their individuality. Personally, I've got a soft spot for aviators, and they've become my go-to choice. Sunglasses are a clever way to infuse style into your look while serving the very practical function of shielding your eyes from the sun's harsh rays.

Now, let's get one thing straight - wearing sunglasses indoors is a no-go. That's a fashion statement that falls flat. Sunglasses belong outside, where they effortlessly elevate your appearance while safeguarding your eyes from blinding glare. With so many options at your fingertips, sunglasses offer a chance for personal expression. It's incredible how a simple accessory can add an extra layer of flair and coolness to your overall style.

So there you have it, accessory number 16 on our list - sunglasses. They're more than just eye protection; they're a style statement waiting to be made.

A Notebook

Let's dive into accessory number 17: the leather notebook. This elegant companion harmonizes seamlessly with other refined accessories like a quality pen and a classic briefcase. There's an undeniable power in jotting down your thoughts with pen and paper; it engraves them deeper into your memory. Perhaps it's just me, but the act of writing something down enhances my recall far more than typing it on a digital device. Throughout the day, inspiration strikes, ideas flow, and important details emerge. While my phone's Notes app captures some of them, for those that truly matter, I reach for my trusty notebook. 

Remarkably, these sophisticated notebooks don't come with an exorbitant price tag. You can even have your initials elegantly embossed on the cover. They add a touch of class to your daily routine, neatly fitting inside your briefcase. In our digital age, where screens dominate, there's something remarkably timeless about putting pen to paper. So, without a doubt, a stylish leather notebook is a worthy addition to your ensemble of accessories.

A Sleeveless Cardigan

Now, let's unravel the magic of accessory number 18: the sleeveless cardigan. This unassuming yet potent piece is another secret weapon in my style arsenal, and you can spot me donning one on the podcast cover illustration. What's splendid about sleeveless cardigans is the kaleidoscope of colors they come in. Whether it's a dignified navy, a serene cream, a vibrant purple, or an earthy green, there's an option for every mood and occasion.

These versatile garments add a delightful twist to your outfit while maintaining an air of subtlety. They possess the power to turn the mundane into the extraordinary. Personally, I have a soft spot for the more colorful variants; they just exude an aura of positivity. But sleeveless cardigans offer more than just aesthetics. They can be a sartorial lifesaver, gently concealing any midsection wrinkles that might arise during the day, especially where your shirt meets your trousers.

I don't don these cardigans daily during the fall and winter, but I eagerly anticipate wearing them several times a week. It's the kind of cheat code that sets us apart as menswear aficionados. People often take notice when I sport one because they're not a common sight. The sleeveless cardigan adds a unique flair to your style, making it an invaluable addition to your cold-weather wardrobe.

Conclusion

In conclusion, this episode has been a captivating journey through the essential accessories that every man should incorporate into their wardrobe. From classic ties to versatile scarves, these items not only elevate your style but also serve as subtle expressions of your personality. Whether you're embracing the practicality of suspenders or basking in the uniqueness of a sleeveless cardigan, these accessories are your tools to stand out in the world of men's fashion.

I hope you found this exploration of accessories both informative and inspiring. Remember, style is a reflection of your individuality, and these accessories are your palette to paint that picture. Thank you for tuning in to another exciting episode of "I'm Not A Gentleman." Your support fuels our passion for men's fashion, and we can't wait to bring you more style insights in the episodes to come. Until next week, stay dapper, stay stylish, and above all, stay true to yourself.

Peace!